Men: A surprisingly simple way couples divorce-proof a marriage

Men are different from women

I think that's a good thing. Any great marriage requires the strengths men bring and the strengths women bring. But, that doesn't stop women from complaining that us men are so man-like. "That's just like a man," comes tumbling from their lips with such certainty, you'd think they first heard it in the cradle.

Now, we're not exactly innocent ourselves. Surely, you've heard guys say, "That's just like a woman," in a condescending way. Maybe you've said it yourself.

Can men and women ever be happy together?

Luckily, the answer is YES! If you both want to be happy together.

I mentioned the 30 years I've spent becoming an expert in relationships because I want you to know there is hope. I've broken the code. I've found the secret: the formula, if you will.

Amazingly, it's easy. It's simple. It's fast. Even guys can get it.

You don't have to change.

Marriage counselors and marriage encounter weekends both try to get you to change, be sensitive to your wife, and figure out what she needs, even when she won't tell you. Good luck with that.

You're a guy. You want to be a guy. You don't want to change, and you certainly don't want to be changed.

We started with the premise that you aren't going to change, and neither is your wife.

You fell in love, decided to marry, and committed to live together "'til death do you part." At that time you loved her the way she was, and she loved you the way you were.

Neither of you saw the flaws that seem to have popped up since the honeymoon.

You can get that sort of unconditional acceptance back again. We'll show you how.

What's our amazing secret?

We'll teach you how to totally accept your wife, the way she is, and not feel bad about it.

We'll teach your wife how to totally accept you, the way you are, and not feel bad about it.

That may sound impossible, but it's not. Our secrets will be revealed. And, they're absolutely guaranteed to work, or you pay nothing.

Before we get into that, let's talk about what's so bad about divorce?

When you married, you had your fingers crossed.

According to studies, 19 out of 20 people marrying admit to having the secret thought, "If it doesn't work out, I'll get a divorce."

That's why the high divorce rate. That's why people are living together and having children together without marrying. They say, "Marrying doesn't mean 'forever.' Just look at the divorce rate." 

It's as though divorce was no big deal.

It is a big deal! Divorce is horrible for the kids, an emotional disaster for the couple, especially for the woman, and a financial catastrophe for both partners.

I'm doing what I can to reach those poor ignorant people who still see divorce as an easy, harmless, and simple way to get out of an uncomfortable relationship.

Divorce is necessary sometimes. If your partner is physically, emotionally, or sexually abusive, get out. If your partner becomes a criminal or an addict who fails rehab, get out. If your partner develops a severe mental illness that can't be cured by mental health professionals, you may be better off leaving.

I'm talking about people who divorce because they're unhappy, or not satisfied, or feel unloved, or become attracted or infatuated with someone outside the marriage.

We call those voluntary divorces. Those are the ones we can help stop.

I'll tell you how we do that in a minute, but first let's be clear that divorce is not a good answer to anything. Divorce is a wrenching, punishing, and painful experience for everyone involved.

Both partners suffer a loss of confidence, a reduced ability to trust, and painful emotional scarring.

Children are hurt the worst.

They may seem like they handle it okay. They may seem to rebound okay, but they are terribly and permanently scarred by having their parents split up. I won't detail how bad it is. If you want to know, enter "effects of divorce on children" in a Google search box and read until you decide you could never inflict a voluntary divorce on your children.

Divorce is a financial disaster for both of the partners.

Before you even let divorce enter your mind, do a Google search on "financial impact of divorce." Even if you think it won't hurt you in the near term, think about bagging groceries when you're retired because you blew your retirement savings on your divorce.

Extended family, friends, and co-workers are all affected by the divorce of a couple they know, work with, and care about. Divorce — at first glance — seems mostly about the partners. But, the effects of divorce spread like wildfire. Lots of people are hurt.

We're the only country on earth where divorce is so common it's become acceptable.

I don't know how that happened. I'm an old guy now, but in my parents' day, divorce was unacceptable. If you divorced, people shunned you. They'd practically point at you when you walked down the street.

By the time I married 53 years ago, divorce had become more common. Not like it is today, but more acceptable.

The boomers probably did it.

The baby boomers were a wild and crazy generation. They broke down all the traditional ways of doing things and made up their own rules. They did a lot of good stuff and made life more pleasant for everybody. But, they really screwed up on the divorce thing.

You could be in danger.

Your wife might just decide to walk out on you one day. You could be ruined financially. You could lose your kids. You could be scarred emotionally. You could lose many of your friends. The casual tolerance of divorce puts you and your future at risk.

Or, you could put your wife and kids in danger.

If you don't make drastic, but simple, changes in the way you think about your relationship, your relationship could suffer an early and painful death.

How do I know divorce is a disaster?

I've been divorced. After 16 years of marriage, I walked out on my wife and kids because I was ignorant about relationships.

I met Shannon, who also was getting divorced, and we fell in love and married. I had that secret thought, "If this doesn't work out I can just get divorced again." I guess that's why the divorce rate for second marriages is even worse than the rate on first marriages.

I suffered the pain, the misery and the torture.

My kids were broken hearted. Her family wouldn't talk to me. Most of our friends fell away. The same thing happened to Shannon. We lived the pain. It was also a financial disaster. I was paying for two households. For two families. My first wife went from a comfortable life to a penny-pinching existence. I felt the guilt. I felt her pain.

They didn't teach this stuff in school.

As a matter of fact, they still don't. I screwed up my first marriage because of ignorance. I didn't know squat about relationships. I didn't know how to make a marriage work. I didn't know why marriages fail. It makes me sick to think about all the things I didn't know. Maybe it was an overreaction, but the pain of our divorces drove Shannon and I into studying everything we could find about relationships. We devoted the next 23 years learning and teaching about relationships. I even got certified as a marriage counselor, but I never practiced.

We taught more than a million adults about relationships.

We formed a company named KASET, Inc. and over the next 20 years created training programs that taught relationship skills to more than a million adults. Companies bought our programs to teach their employees customer relations skills, but of course the employees used their skills at home with spouses, kids, and extended families.

We got teary letters of gratitude for the marriages that our training saved.

We're not marriage counselors.

As a matter of fact, the real marriage counselors hate us, because if you buy our stuff you'll never need them. In 1984 I wrote a book called Sagery and presented it to a big group of therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, etc. At the end of the weekend seminar, one marriage counselor said to me, "If I gave that book to my clients, they wouldn't need me. That would ruin my practice."

So what? And why should you care?

Because, we can divorce-proof your marriage. That's what this is all about.

We've got a bunch of videos, small e-books, and proven training skills. We made everything work in tiny, 5 or 10-minute pieces, so you can divorce-proof your marriage in small slices of time.

We made it easy and simple to learn, because we know you don't want to struggle learning new stuff.

It's all on the Internet, so you can learn whenever you can find 5 or 10 minutes a week to learn how to make your marriage happy.

You get a forum so you can talk to other guys (only guys) who are divorce-proofing their marriages. You can trade stories about your marriages. You can ask questions if you get stuck.

Here's why it's right for you.

You'll be saved the misery, pain and torture of divorce. You will protect your kids from the break-up of their parents. You will protect your financial future, and when it's time to retire you'll have everything you can save and invest for a comfortable old age.

You will have a happier marriage. You'll have a loving partner to share your golden years. You'll be able to keep your friends and your extended family.

Here's what I want you to do next.

Buy our stuff. It's absolutely 100% guaranteed to work, or all of your money back. Try to get that kind of guarantee from a marriage counselor, or marriage encounter type weekend. You're totally satisfied, or you get your money back.

The first part is called "The Commitment Series."

The commitment series will lead you to take divorce off the table. You'll both decide to never do it. No matter what.

What happens when you take divorce off the table?

First, there is an incredible explosion of loving feelings. It's like the time you first proposed to share your life with this person.

Then, it sinks in: "If I can't get out, I better make this work."

Maybe, then, for the first time, you'll be willing to spend 5 to 10 minutes a week learning the simple, easy skills that will make your marriage happy and secure.

You'll say, "I want this to be happier. I want to be loved, appreciated, and respected just the way I am. And, if I get that, I am willing to love, appreciate and respect my wife, just the way she is."

The rest is "The Relationship Emergency Kit.

It would take you a couple of years to go through everything in the kit. You'll use it any time you get a bad feeling about your wife, and want to cope with that bad feeling — without hurting the relationship. You'll learn to cope with anything.

By the way, you can use the coping skills anytime you have job woes, in-law troubles, teen-aged kids, or any other trouble in your life. People tell us it cuts down the stress in all parts of their lives.

You also use the kit to make the marriage happier.

Your wife will learn how to love, appreciate, and respect you, exactly the way you are.

She loved you, she committed to you: the way you were and who you were. We'll help her see that you don't have to change. You deserve to be loved, appreciated, and respected just being the person you are.

We'll show you how to love, appreciate, and respect your wife, just the way she is. You may think that's going to be difficult, but you'll be amazed at how easy the process is.

It's not uncommon for both parties to think they would have a happier, more secure marriage, if only … he or she would change.

That's where our stuff is almost magical. You'll get back in touch with the love you have for your partner, just the way she is.

She'll get back in touch with the love, appreciation and respect she has for you. She'll no longer think she'd be happier if only you changed.

We don't think it's easy to change.

Men and women are different. Men can talk to men. Women can talk to women. But, we have mountains of evidence that men can't talk to women, in a way that women want their man to talk with them.

It's like John Gray says in his book "Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus." You're different species.

We do teach you how to get your wife's input on any decision that's important to both of you, and vice versa. You're a team. You can't be a team if you're doing the Lone Ranger thing.

We give you each a separate forum. Men talk to men. Women talk to women. You'll learn that all those things about your wife that make you uncomfortable are part of her being a woman. Being a woman isn't wrong, it's just different.

Your wife will learn that all the things about you that make her uncomfortable are just part of being a man. That doesn't make it wrong, just different.

We'll inoculate you against infidelity.

You'll learn why attraction and infatuation are your deadly enemies. Infatuation is a form of hormonal madness, left over from our cave man days. The infatuation madness makes you think a new relationship will be better than your existing one. Believe me, it's not. Every survey of men who've divorced because they thought the grass would be greener with someone else, shows how false that is.

Quite honestly, our stuff isn't for everybody.

It isn't for people who want an excuse for a guilt-free divorce. It isn't for people who think the grass is really going to be greener with some other partner. It isn't for fools, dreamers, or love junkies.

It's for real people …

… who want to protect their kids, friends, and extended families from the loss of you and your partner. It's for realists who understand the financial impact of divorce on you, your partner, your kids, and your retirement.

Exactly what are we offering?

First, is the Commitment Series. This is a series of videos, short articles, and a couple of quizzes.

The goal of the commitment series is to get you to ask yourself those tough questions that never get asked. Like, exactly how committed are you to this relationship? Do you ever think about divorce? How frequently? How much are you at risk of causing a divorce?

You answer these questions privately. You don't share your answers with your wife. You want honesty, not politically correct answers.

Then, you consider divorce, its pain, misery, and financial impact, and decide whether you want to set a higher goal than you presently have, for your commitment to divorce-proof your marriage.

You do this in a series of short videos, easy readings, and quizzes. It sounds easy, and it is easy. But the answers come hard. You'll be doing some soul searching.

At the end of this series, you and your wife get together and give each other your final decision. Essentially, it's one of four broad choices.

Unconditional Commitment

"I'm in. I'll take divorce off the table, and promise never to consider it or think about it again. I'll do whatever it takes to make this marriage happier and divorce-proof."

Conditional Commitment (I'll work to resolve my issues.)

 "I've got some issues I need to resolve in my own mind. I'll do what it takes to resolve them. When I resolve them, my goal is to make an unconditional commitment."

 Conditional Commitment (You fix some things, then I'll see.)

"I've got some reservations about committing to our marriage forever, until you fix the things that are giving me reservations."

No Commitment (I'm not committed and I think it's hopeless.)

"I don't think it's going to ever work. I think our marriage is doomed." 

You'll know exactly where you stand 

By the end of your meeting, you and your wife will know exactly where you stand. You'll know what needs to be done and who's willing to do what it takes to divorce proof your marriage.

You'll both trade doubt for certainty

After taking the Commitment Series:

"The Relationship Emergency Kit"

People have called it, "The world's most comprehensive relationship training program."

That may sound impressive, but when we designed it (and spent four years creating it), we failed to recognize that the couples we serve might not be quite as dedicated to learning about relationships as we were to teaching about relationships.

Relationships are complex (I don't need to tell you that), and to cover every possible relationship issue that might arise, was a challenge.

In fact, if you were to start at the beginning and work through the entire series of training modules, you and your partner might spend two or more years learning to create the perfect relationship.

Our friends, family, and early users brought us back to reality. In almost a unanimous voice they said, "We don't want to spend two years working on our relationship. We just want to know what we need to know whenever we have a problem."

So they told us how they wanted to use the vast array of information. They wanted to use it as a "Relationship Emergency Kit."

Darlene said, "The commitment series is incredible. Everybody will get a lot out of that. But, then, until there is an urgent problem, a couple shouldn't have to do anything more."

Eddie said, "I want to go to the emergency kit only when Linda and I have a problem."

So, we zigged, zagged, and re-organized everything so that:

• Everything you'll ever need is there and available.

• You only need the kit when you have a problem.

• The weekly emails will get your attention when you do have a problem, and prompt you to go to the kit for the solution. That way, an issue can't fester and grow from a molehill into a mountain.

What's in it?

The relationship emergency kit is for use after you — or you and your partner — have committed to make your relationship last and be happy.

So, if you both made a mutual unconditional commitment, you may not need the "Relationship Emergency Kit." It does contain the stuff that makes the relationship warmer and more loving. The module about increasing appreciation will set off a continuing series of warm loving messages of appreciation for your partner. It's been known to work wonders. It will definitely make your marriage happier.

If you have frequent fights, spats, or disagreements, you'll want the module on "Irresolvable Issues." You can cut down on hurtful interactions by up to 80%.

If one of you tends to be negative and critical, that person will want to take the module on positivity. You'll become more positive in the relationship, at work and with friends, and with the kids and extended family. It has the potential to change your life. 

If one of you made a conditional commitment ...

... you have an immediate need for the "Relationship Emergency Kit." You won't have to wander through the dozens of e-books, videos, exercises, and practices. You can go straight to what you need to resolve any old bad feelings or reservations you have about committing to take divorce off the table. If you don't know where to start, just ask on the forum, and one of your forum mates will tell you exactly where to go.

If one of you said, "No commitment; it's hopeless."

You definitely have a relationship emergency. Whichever one of you still feels there is hope can use the emergency kit to resolve the issues coming between you. Then, once the hopeless partner sees the difference, take the Commitment Series again and see if you get a different answer. If you do, then both of you can use the emergency kit.

Here's where you choose.

You can tiptoe in, or jump in with both feet.

Tiptoe: At least, get the Commitment Series and take divorce off the table. Once you do that, your relationship will immediately become happier, more loving, and you'll think about the other differently.

The Commitment Series: ---------------------------------$97

After that, you may need the "Relationship Emergency Kit."

It's designed to be used whenever you have a problem in the relationship. You'll learn a simple process allowing you to cope with anything you might have previously wanted your partner to change. It's also where you'll learn appreciation, respect and how to be more loving.

The Relationship Emergency Kit------------------------$197

Jump In with Both Feet: Complete Relationship Insurance is the name we give the combined package of The Commitment Series AND the Relationship Emergency Kit. If you buy both together we offer a $50 savings.

Complete Relationship Insurance-----------------------$247 

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Yours for happy marriages that last,

Ken Johnston

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